Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Nora Ephron on life's big lottery in her book, "I Remember Nothing..."

Nora Ephron has never been shy about the truth during her 30-year career as a journalist, book author, script writer and movie producer. She first scored in the early 1980s with her novel (and later movie, starring Meryl Streep), "Heartburn," which pretty much nailed her fictionalized ex-husband Carl Bernstein (yes, the Bernstein of Watergate fame) for his philandering ways. She's been a voice of babyboomer women since with "When Harry Met Sally, "Sleepless in Seattle" and "Julie &Julia."

Ephron, 69, is out with a new memoir, "I Remember Nothing and Other Reflections." I like what she has to say about the ultimate lottery called life.
"In these days of physical fitness, hair dye and plastic surgery, you can live much of your life without feeling old"...."But then one day, your knee goes, or your shoulder, or your back, or your hip. Your hot flashes come to an end.
"You are suddenly in a lottery, the ultimate game of chance, and someday your luck will run out. Every body's does. There's nothing you can do about it," she writes.
Please don't get the idea that Ephron is discouraged about life. Aging just brings new perspective as we see friends and family go and infirmities begin to take hold.
Ephron, recently interviewed by Charlie Rose, said she used to like watching geese fly south in a V formation in the fall, but now those geese just remind her that summer is over in a gloomy sort of way. Instead she now prefers to watch hummingbirds because "they seem to be busy getting the most out of life."
Since I don't have a crystal ball to know when my real end is coming, I choose to get the most out of life, focus on the moment and love the people in my circle...family and friends.
I found a short profile of Ephron while looking for Christmas gift ideas this week in Costco's monthly magazine, Costco Connection. Ephron's book, "I Remember Nothing and Other Reflections," Alfred A. Knopf, is for sale at $12.49 at Costco.com and for $11.49 at Amazon.com.
For me, Ephron is a fellow traveler...a woman of the liberated late-20th Century who has enjoyed the freedoms and endured the pain of a blessed generation of women who wanted it all, took chances, made mistakes and learned from them, loved deeply and observed the ironic curiosities of their condition.
Her thoughts about aging are both comforting in that she reminds me that we're not alone and encouraging for the way she's embracing life as we know it for as long as the lottery lasts.

1 comment:

  1. Yes! Nora Ephron is such an inspiration. I've been screenwriting for 6 years and would love to find local investors for independent film. The things we love in life can be the lessons we put on film. We don't have to leave it up to Hollywood to fill the screen with idle chatter. Visit me at BecomingOldHat.blogspot.com for a taste of some old fashioned,tongue-in-cheek, Buster Keaton style slapstick.